stillarhino: (11 ☠ and build it up again)
beat ☠️ daisukenojo bito ([personal profile] stillarhino) wrote in [community profile] shellphones2025-02-05 12:32 am

01 | text 💀 not dating advice

Type: text

Sender ID: stillarhino (Beat)
To: Everyone
Subject: A little help
Warnings: None

i kinda need some advice too and it aint really about dating
if something happened and you messed up big time
like REALLY messed up
howd ya go about making up to someone who got caught up in it
i wanna let them know that im sorry for real you know

hit me with whatcha got


[Was this supposed to be anonymous? No. Was this is supposed to be filtered away from Futaba? Yes. But is not... because someone forgot. Whoops.]
astudyinviolet: Sherlock glancing to the side (Saints and Sinners)

[personal profile] astudyinviolet 2025-02-05 05:32 am (UTC)(link)
Did they say they wanted more from you?
astudyinviolet: Sherlock facing forward with arms crossed (Love Death and Cordona)

[personal profile] astudyinviolet 2025-02-05 10:20 pm (UTC)(link)
Then in this case, you seem to be doing this more for your own guilt than for her. You should focus on improving yourself, so you do not make the same mistakes again.

You cannot change the past. You can change what you do going forward, and that effort will be more meaningful that any attempt to make up for what you did.
astudyinviolet: Scruffy Sherlock with his deerstalker cap (⩑ A Pursuit of Trivial)

[personal profile] astudyinviolet 2025-02-06 06:02 pm (UTC)(link)
Once more, she did not ask you to, and repeated attempts to make it up to her will hinge on her forgiveness rather than your commitment to change. Will you blackmail her with your favors and guilt until you are satisfied with her forgiveness?

I've already said that she is not obligated to forgive you. That is for her to decide not you.

If you must prove you're serious, state what you did wrong, how you will avoid doing that again in the future, and then follow through regardless of obtaining her forgiveness or not.


[ Is it obvious that this hits on something for Sherlock? ]
astudyinviolet: Sherlock with furrowed brows (Eel Hunting)

[personal profile] astudyinviolet 2025-02-06 06:28 pm (UTC)(link)
[ Wait, what? ]

If you have her forgiveness and have decided how you will prevent yourself from making the same mistake, then why are you doing all this? Do you not trust her or her decision?
astudyinviolet: Sherlock with furrowed brows (Eel Hunting)

[personal profile] astudyinviolet 2025-02-06 09:57 pm (UTC)(link)
I may not have extensive knowledge or experience in this area, but could you not simply do what friends and lovers do?
astudyinviolet: Sherlock glancing to the side (Saints and Sinners)

[personal profile] astudyinviolet 2025-02-08 01:05 am (UTC)(link)
Could you not share a meal or a concert? A game of chess or reading the newspaper together?
astudyinviolet: chibi scruffy Sherlock looking haunted (ϙ R'luhhor ahh ya)

[personal profile] astudyinviolet 2025-02-09 01:29 am (UTC)(link)
[ Sherlock has to read that message multiple times because he has learned that people are far too eager to overshare certain private details in this world and the alternate usage of certain words. He doesn't know this person to make a judgement on them personally, just the evidence he sees and has seen.

It was only a matter of time that he tried to look too much into the pattern and saw things that weren't there. (Not the first time he's done that)
]

Then ask her if that's what she wants or her preference? A number of problems would be solved if couples simply talked to each other.
astudyinviolet: chibi scruffy Sherlock looking haunted (ϙ R'luhhor ahh ya)

[personal profile] astudyinviolet 2025-02-09 04:44 am (UTC)(link)
What are you talking about?
astudyinviolet: Sherlock with an arm over his eyes (The Muse From Abroad)

[personal profile] astudyinviolet 2025-02-09 06:16 am (UTC)(link)
[ Christ, Sherlock. Stop being so bad at this. Why can't he figure this out? ]

I am beginning to wonder if the magic that allows us to understand each other regularly breaks for me.
astudyinviolet: Scruffy Sherlock being helped up by Watson (⩑ The Port of Fear)

[personal profile] astudyinviolet 2025-02-09 06:55 am (UTC)(link)
[ And what's worse is that Sherlock thinks Jon would somehow understand all of this, but he's gone and left Sherlock without a damn clue. ]

There is no spitting involved.

I once bought a newly married couple a pair of spinning tops only to learn that when I heard of one of them wanting to top, it meant something far more private involving romantic couples.

It would appear I have misunderstood you but in the opposite direction this time.

That was beautiful

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